Exercise #6: Add in Rituals of Connection

In long-term relationships, it’s easy to assume that love is known. But over time, the quiet ways we turn toward each other—the small, predictable moments of care—are what keep connection alive.

These moments are called rituals of connection. They don’t have to be dramatic or time-consuming. In fact, the best ones often take less than a minute. A good morning hug. A cup of coffee handed over with a smile. A goodbye kiss before one of you walks out the door. A check-in text that says, “Thinking of you.” These little gestures are the scaffolding of intimacy.

If you can make time for a lengthier ritual, couples often find that an intentional check-in in the evening to share about your days and offer attention and appreciation creates a valuable space for expressing care.

If busyness or autopilot has taken over your days, try incorporating a few daily rituals of connection to reprioritize the relationship.. Choose something that feels natural, not forced. And notice how it shifts the tone of your day—and the feel of the space between you and your partner.